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 Various Qualities and Differences among the Sexes:
There is a very famous
book available at any bookstore, online book retailer or your local
library that is worth a look at some point. It is called Men are from
Mars and Women are from Venus by John Gray. The book is a wonderful
attempt to explain the natural differences between men and women.
The author’s point in his book is to basically help men and
women to acknowledge, understand, and accept these differences before
they can move on and enjoy fuller, happier relationships. Mr. Gray
offers a spirited look at these differences that are intended to explain
these differences so that men and women might be able to adjust their
thinking so that they find it easier to understand intentions and
meaning behind thought processes and actions.
The first step in understanding
the differences between men and women is to acknowledge that there
are, in fact, differences between the sexes especially in the way
that they communicate with each other. Men simply do not think the
way that women do and women simply do not think the way that men do.
For example, if a woman declares that she would like to go out to
dinner and a movie her husband would most likely not think of her
idea as a romantic one. He is more likely to immediately think about
how much a night out will cost and become stressed about it. When
a man gives a woman risqué lingerie, he is thinking about how
wonderful she will look in it. A woman is more likely to think that
he is trying to get her to look like a prostitute. The use of the
word romance can be quite slippery as well with a woman using romance
to refer to love while a man usually infers sex when he refers to
romance. Be careful and clarify intentions before things go too far.
When you are buying
lingerie for your husband, keep in mind that it is for him. You are
buying it to thrill and to please him. Choose colors that you know
he will like. Studies show that while women prefer pastel colored
lingerie, men prefer to see their women in red and black lingerie.
Make sure that the lingerie is truly chosen for your spouse and not
just what makes you happy.
Women have a natural
habit of complaining that is and have been referred to for decades
as ‘nagging’. Women need to stop nagging, no matter what
the cause of the nag. Men tend to be quite judgmental. Women do not
want to be judged or corrected. They also resent any type of conversation
that resembles a lecture. She doesn’t want or need it and will
end up resenting you for it.
Instead of focusing
on the conflict of nature between men and women, focus on the wonderful
attributes each partner has to bring into the relationship. Talk more,
listen better, and make fewer assumptions. Also, try to appreciate
your spouse for more than just his or her differences. Appreciate
him or her for the good that they bring to your marriage.
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