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 Set Your Inner Child Free:
Remember when you were
young, free, and looked for ways to have fun with your friends and
spouse? Over the years, we often find it difficult to stay young at
heart when life overwhelms us with responsibility, stress, and even
consuming worries about financial or employment concerns. We no longer
look for the fun in anything. In fact, sometimes others attempting
to have fun can irritate us even further! Well, it needs to stop right
now. You’re being far too grown up and sucking the fun right
out of your life and your spouse’s life as well. It’s
time to re-connect with your inner child and extend the offer to find
fun again to your spouse.
Think back to when
you and your spouse were dating and try to remember the most fun you
two had together. Start remembering together by doing it all over
again right now! Take this idea a step further by trying to remember
the most fun you’ve ever had while your clothes were on and,
of course, then try to remember the most fun you’ve ever had
while your clothes were off! Do them both again! And do them again
if you want to!
When you live with
someone and you want to have fun with them, it is essential that you
pay attention to what they like and what they don’t like. If
you are the only one having fun because you’ve stepped on his
or her toes or feelings, there really isn’t any fun being had.
For example, we all have certain things that make us angry or what
some call “hot topics”. Learn what your spouse’s
hot topics are and try not to bring them up. You as well as your spouse
also have certain actions that irritate you or “pet peeves”.
Again, learn them and try avoiding them!
Your spouse also has
a number of things from which they derive pleasure. Your spouse, no
matter how composed he or she may be, has areas of emotional vulnerability.
Learn what they are and indulge those areas. Also, pay attention to
what turns your partner on and rehearse, practice, rehearse, practice
and so on! It is also important to know what your spouse considers
to be a ‘turn off’ so that you can avoid doing so. If
you do something that turns your partner off, it could undo all of
the ‘turning on’ you’ve been working so hard at.
Keep in mind that there
are endless ways that you can express love to your spouse and when
you add fun into the mix, it can become a lasting memory. Always accept
your partner’s reactions and responses as honest expressions
of their love even though it might not be what you had hoped for or
anticipated. This is part of accepting your partner for who he or
she is and learning to see past your own disappointment or insecurities.
If you have difficulty with the way you are viewing his or her attempt
at romance, you might simply begin a conversation about his or her
needs while contributing your own thoughts and feelings. If you work
with your partner instead of conflicting with him or her, you will
both be much happier and your romance with grow much quicker.
 My good Marriage Sponsors;
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