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 Romance Mistakes:
Being romantic is wonderful,
fun, and especially rewarding but unfortunately, many people make
mistakes we all make in relationships that can simply undo all of
the good that has been done by romantic efforts. For instance, every
couple has disagreements and upon occasion the argument has a definitive
outcome. The spouse that was right during the argument has two choices
when ‘winning’- he or she can not see it as winning and
simply move on or express understanding as to why there may have been
some confusion. Or, he or she can gloat and make their spouse feel
inferior and possibly humiliated. One works (the moving on one...)
and one doesn’t (the gloating one).
Conflict is often unavoidable
when two people from two different backgrounds with different beliefs
are brought together. If you happen to be the one in a disagreement
who doesn’t come out as the ‘right’ one or you don’t
get your way, the worst thing you can do is to pout. It’s simply
childish, not sexy at all and your partner will most likely have a
difficult time finding respect for you as a result.
While worry is a natural
part of life, try not to let it overwhelm your relationship. Wouldn’t
your rather focus on much more positive things like romance? If you
find that you and your spouse schedule a lot during the week, sit
down and try to eliminate some commitments. Don’t over-schedule
any time that you don’t have to, including vacations and weekends.
Make choices that benefit
both you and your spouse. Instead of turning on the television, ask
your wife or husband if they would like to play a board game or go
for a walk. If you decide to watch television together, never guess
at the plot or give away the ending of a movie! Try to support your
spouse’s authority in front of the children. If you disagree
about what was done, wait until you can talk quietly with your spouse
and discuss why and how things may have been done differently. He
or she can always go back and change their mind or you may eventually
come to support his or her decisions.
Make as much as possible
in your relationship about ‘us’ instead of about ‘you’.
This doesn’t mean that you or your spouse has to sacrifice his
or her individuality; it simply means that all decisions and thoughts
about the relationship should be about both needs instead of your
own individual needs. For instance, if you happen to be or sleep with
someone who ‘hogs’ the bed covers go out and find an extra,
extra large blanket so that there’s plenty for both to share.
Don’t make an issue out of it- make a joke and provide a solution.
Show your spouse that
you are a loving and mature individual by doing mature and loving
things like never holding grudges or continuously bringing up errors
from the past. You can also be a good listener, never interrupt, and
wait your turn. And most importantly, don’t allow a day to pass
by without telling your spouse that you love them.
Know what is important
in your life. Keep your priorities straight. Acknowledge that your
marriage should be the center of your life. Live that way.
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