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 Opposites Attract:
We’ve all heard
the expression that ‘opposites attract’. Heck, even Paula
Abdul made a song dedicated to such a phenomenon. While opposites
can seem to have the biggest challenges ahead of them when they get
married, they also have to most opportunities for love and romance.
People who embrace romance and actually admit that they enjoy romance
are more likely to be successfully married to their opposite. It just
goes to show you how powerful romance can be in any marriage!
Every marriage experiences
problems and even misunderstandings from small tiffs to shouting matches
and the reason for this is often because both spouses are not able
to acknowledge, recognize, and appreciate their differences or the
principle of balancing opposites. Everything is intended to be able
to work with and often balance its opposite. Life is full of opposites
that complement each other like man and woman, happy and sad, funny
and serious, give and take as well as life and death.
Opposites offer insight
into the magic of how life is balanced. If you begin to see your spouse
as your equivalent on the opposite side of the scale of life, you
should find that you have a new appreciation for his or her individuality.
Try seeing everything
you experience in your marriage at complementary experiences or behaviors.
For instance, instead of using your differences with your spouse as
a reason for conflict, try considering them as an important part of
the person you love and celebrate them. While the opposite traits
may seem to stand out, you undoubtedly have some common traits you
share with your spouse. Find strength with your spouse because of
your similarities.
Take each day with
your spouse and live it to the fullest. At the same time, it is a
wonderful idea to make your memories a part of what makes your romance
special. If you love reading books, will you buy some more but make
them about something that your spouse is interested in. He or she
may never read the book, but you will have and you can share all kinds
of thoughts and ideas that you may not have been able to before. At
the same time, stop relying on books that tell you how to improve
your marriage. You already have all that you need without them. You
and your spouse are already there!
Make sure you aren’t
holding anything back in your relationship. Each partnership tends
to have an individual who would rather bury their feelings than express
them and possibly cause conflict or wounded feelings. It is absolutely
all right to express how you feel as long as your words are chosen
carefully. Never take on an accusative tone and always make sure you
emphasize what you are saying is how you feel.
You are married to
your best friend. If you don’t treat him or her like they are
your best friend already, it’s time to start right now. On the
other hand, sometimes it might be fun to act like he or she is a stranger
to spice things up. Imagine a chance to get to know one another all
over again!
Part of getting to
know each other often includes assessing your roles in your relationship.
Learning about how your partner feels regarding your role in your
marriage can be an enlightening and educational experience. It is
also an excellent tool that can help both of you grow.
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