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 Have a Love Affair with Your Spouse:
Mort Katz once said
that “Love is its own aphrodisiac and is the main ingredient
for lasting sex.” If you’ve got love and you’re
working on the romance, your own incredible love affair with your
spouse is just waiting to break free! Do you know what turns your
partner on? Are you aware of his or her most intimate, secret fantasies?
Most people make assumptions about what their spouse likes based on
external factors like what partners in previous relationships liked
or what the latest magazine article claims to work. Everyone likes
something different and in the bedroom is no exception. Now is the
time to learn about your spouse, what you both want in the bedroom,
and what works for both of you as a couple.
Visit some of the most
popular lingerie stores in your area together or browse web sites
like Victoria's Secret or Frederick’s of Hollywood. You can
even request catalogs to be delivered to your home so that you can
‘shop’ together at your leisure. Have him mark off what
he finds exciting and arousing. Have her mark off what she finds exciting
and arousing. Both should go through the catalog or shop together
and make note of what they both agree on. Then both spouses should
put all of their preconceived ideas and judgements aside as they explore
possibilities with and for each other. To begin with, wives should
try something incredibly simple yet incredibly sexy like laying on
a bed of black sheets while wearing white lingerie or the other way
around. That is a wonderful starting point and safe way to open up
about what you both enjoy in the bedroom.
Look into what is considered
to be an aphrodisiac and try some things out together. An aphrodisiac
is anything like a smell, drug, food, drink or even flower that some
say increase or stimulates sexual desire. While scientific evidence
to back the actual effectiveness of aphrodisiacs is lacking, some
couples find excitement simply in trying new things. Some of the most
common things people claim to have an aphrodisiac affect include hot,
sweat producing spices, oysters, wasabi, caviar reinforced by vodka,
ginseng, yohimbe, and the scents of musk, patchouli, and vanilla.
Two flowers that are thought to be related to sex enhancement are
the Hibiscus and Cala Lilies.
If you and your spouse
have a difficult time sitting down and telling each other about your
sexual fantasies, try making a game out of it. Get a large, empty
jar and fill it with 25 of your most intimate sexual fantasies. You
can make them anything that has to with your fulfillment, your spouse’s
fulfillment, or both of your fulfillments. Again, setting all inhibitions
and judgements aside, you both get to pick a single fantasy each week
that should be fulfilled as a couple. It is up to both of you if you
feel the need to set particular rules and/or boundaries. Of course,
the game can always change as you both grow more comfortable with
each other and learn how much fun and fulfilling being intimate with
your own spouse can be.
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