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 Battling Romance Myths:
The institution of
marriage is surrounded by a number of myths, stories, and advice freely
offered by people on a daily basis. Unfortunately, many people listen
to and believe these pieces of so-called wisdom to the point where
it doesn’t help their marriage and it only hinders its growth.
Many of the myths regarding relationships are incredibly damaging
and it is unfortunate that they are such common beliefs. Once you
understand why certain bits of advice or information can be regarded
as myths, you can break through what could be blocking the growth
of your marriage. In fact, you may actually learn to appreciate your
spouse and your role in your marriage even more.
Sensationalist television,
magazines, and talk radio have been key players when it comes to fueling
any belief that there is a battle between the sexes happening. While
there are definitively some physical and psychological differences,
they are not enough to earn the term ‘battle’ as a description.
When you allow yourself to consider any kind of battle between the
sexes, you risk grouping all men or all women into a certain category
and that leads to stereotyping. Once you recognize that your partner
is a unique individual with a number of positive attributes, you can
shed the thought that there should be any type of conflict between
the two of you. Any thought of battle or conflict only leads to lack
of communication, misunderstandings and discourages growth in any
relationship.
Nice guys finish last
is one of the worst possible sayings floating around today. Whoever
thought of that and actually uttered those words must have been feeling
truly low and full of self-pity because there simply cannot be any
other explanation. Nice guys never finish last. They may have a longer
and harder road sometimes, but it isn’t often that you see the
bullies and jerks finishing first. If they aren’t, who is? It’s
the nice guys, but they are so nice and gracious you don’t hear
them bragging about it. It is also important to note that the word
‘nice’ doesn’t mean ‘weak’ or ‘effeminate’
in any way. Nice means socially or conventionally correct, refined,
or virtuous and is not at all negative in any way. Nice is not another
word for push over or spineless. Nice is as close to a ‘perfect’
man as you can come and they always end up first in line.
Romance is all you
need in order to save your relationship is a wonderfully optimistic
thought, but not quite accurate. If simple romance were enough to
save a marriage, it would be running wonderfully rampant throughout
the world today. Unfortunately, it takes more than simple romance.
If you truly feel love for your spouse and you are expressing it through
romance, then it will save your marriage. If you are trying to use
romance to buy some time or to placate your spouse, then you are only
buying time or placating your spouse. Your time as a married couple
is most likely limited and should be attended to immediately by a
professional.
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