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 Battling More Romance Myths:
Sometimes holding on
to the myths and old-fashioned views of relationships and marriage
are all that hold couples back from having a truly wonderfully fulfilling
and happy relationship. It is important to recognize your spouse and
his or her own special individual with so much to offer you and your
relationship if you love, support and respect your partner. Encouraging
your partner through support, understanding and appreciation are crucial
to breaking through stereotypes and the myths that surround relationships
between men and women. Working through and dismissing that type of
information as old-fashioned, irrelevant, and flat-out wrong can open
doors in your marriage you didn’t even know were closed.
When things become
tense between you and your partner, keep in mind some of the stereotypes
you might be clinging to and work to dispel them from your psyche.
For example, if one of you or both of you believe that romance is
the best way to hide or disguise your faults, it simply isn’t
the case. Someone who is not a nice person doesn’t miraculously
change because they present their spouse with flowers. That spouse
still isn’t a nice person. Romantic gestures may disguise some
faults for a short time, but a person’s true self always come
through. If you are realistic about whom you are and your expectations
of each other, then romance can work wonders to improve your relationship.
If you give them an
inch, they’ll take a mile and if you married them you most likely
would have seen it by now. There isn’t any truth to this particular
saying and it only sets us up to be suspicious of someone who really
hasn’t done anything in order to earn our suspicion. If you
give a little bit consistently, you will be satisfying your partner
and they won’t need that extra. If you don’t ever give
or give so infrequently that your efforts are forgotten, your spouse
has every right to demand a mile from you. Give him or her an inch
and enjoy the journey down the rest of the mile together.
If you think that once
you marry someone that you can change him or her, you are in for a
rude awakening. You cannot change a person, yet you can make an impact
on how they may see things, you can help them adjust to new or unfamiliar
ways of thinking and you can always resort to manipulation, but nothing
will change or even fix your spouse. Never manipulate or push your
partner into a direction he or she resists. You may be the one who
needs to alter his or her way of thinking or viewing things. You may
be able to do that on your own or require the help of a therapist
in order to show you the skills you need for better understanding
and acceptance of you and your spouse. If you feel there are problems
between you and your spouse due to personality conflicts, try working
together to learn how to express thoughts and feelings better and
more productively. If you are both in love, you will find the romance
in there somewhere. The best place to start is usually at the beginning
with the basics.
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